Green Flags in a Relationship

We often talk about the red flags that come up in a relationship. This makes sense, as many partners who abuse are good at manipulating feelings and experiences to make it seem like they are not that bad. We also want to point out the red flags, as those are signs that things are bad and could get worse. However, it is also important to recognize green flags in a relationship, as these can show that a relationship is healthy and positive.

We use the term “green flag” to highlight actions or traits that are positive. These are usually signs that someone has healthy behaviors, which can be a good sign that your potential relationship will start off positive and hopefully stay that way.

Every relationship looks different. For some people, consistent communication is necessary, while others are okay with sporadic communication.  Ultimately, a relationship is healthy when both you and your partner feel that things are equal and meet both partner’s needs.

Here are some relationship green flags:

Communication. You talk openly about problems and listen to one another. You respect each other’s opinions.

Respect. You value each other’s opinions, feelings, and needs. You give each other the freedom to be yourself and be loved for who you are.

Trust. You believe what your partner has to say and don’t feel the need to “prove” each other’s trustworthiness.

Honesty. You’re honest with each other but can still keep some things private.

Equality. You make decisions together and hold each other to the same standards. You and your partner have equal say about major decisions within the relationship. All partners have access to the resources they need.

Boundaries. You enjoy spending time apart, alone, or with others. You respect each other’s need for time and space apart. You communicate with each other about what you are and aren’t comfortable with.

Consent. You talk openly about physical, sexual, and reproductive choices together. All partners always willingly consent to sexual activity and can safely discuss what you are and aren’t comfortable with.

Parenting supportively. All partners are able to parent in a way that they feel comfortable with. You communicate together about the needs of the child(ren), as well as the needs of the parents.

We recognize that relationships may not be perfect at all times. People are dynamic creatures, so our emotions and needs may fluctuate depending on a variety of things, like how much sleep we’re getting, if we feel fulfilled in our life, and if we are able to take care of ourselves. If you feel that the green flags listed above only happen occasionally, it is important to talk about it. Those conversations can help show if you and your partner are willing to grow and learn from past experiences, so you can continue to move forward in a healthy direction. Our advocates are here 24/7 through chat, text, or call, so reach out to us if you have questions or concerns.