We had a great first week of The Hotline DVAM Challenge. Here were the challenges so far:
Challenge 1: Commit to the DVAM Challenge
Challenge 2: Share the facts about domestic violence
Challenge 3: Take the quiz and test your knowledge
Challenge 4: End the stigma by sharing the truth
Challenge 5: Know (and share) the signs of abuse
This week, we will be focusing on the role that the support system plays for a survivor or victim of domestic violence.
We often have friends and family call The Hotline asking what they can do for their loved one who is experiencing abuse. This week, we’ll look at how we can encourage healthy relationships to those around us and how we can respond if someone turns to us for help.
Our DVAM challenge for Day 6 is simple but could be lifesaving. Please share our number with your network of friends and family. You could post the message below on Facebook, Twitter or email, or simply reach out to someone you know who may need to talk. If reaching out to a friend/family member, keep their safety in mind and don’t post the message in a place where their partner can see.
Facebook: If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, please call The Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) to speak to a supportive and caring advocate.
Twitter: If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, please call The Hotline @NDVH at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY).
During this week, we have reflected on how information is powerful in understanding and ending domestic violence. Being able to tell the signs of domestic violence is very challenging, especially when it is happening to someone we love or maybe even ourselves.
Please read the following signs of abuse.
It may be abuse if one partner:
– Embarrasses the other with put-downs
– Acts in ways that scares the other partner
– Controls what the other does, who they see or talk to or where they go
– Stops the other partner from seeing friends or family members
– Takes the other partner’s money or Social Security check, makes the other partner ask for money or refuses to give money
– Makes all of the decisions
– Tells the other partner that they’re a bad parent or threatens to take away or hurt their children
– Prevents the other partner from working or attending school
– Acts like the abuse is no big deal, it’s the victim’s fault, or even denies doing it
– Destroys property or threatens to kill family pets
– Intimidates with guns, knives or other weapons
– Shoves, slaps, chokes, or hits the other
– Threatens to commit suicide
– Threatens to kill their partner
If you are experiencing the signs above, please call our advocates at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or at TTY 1-800-787-3224.
We have to remove the stigma around domestic violence. Many statistics show that 1 in 4 women will be abused in their lifetime. Despite this high number, abuse is still a taboo subject. We need to make domestic violence an issue that we can talk about openly so that victims and survivors won’t feel judged for experiencing abuse. We should make sure that anyone who reaches out for support is met with understanding and compassion.
This week’s theme is that information equals power. For DVAM Challenge #4, please share this image. You may right click it and save it to your computer to be shared electronically via email, Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, Flickr or more. You could also actually print it out and tape it to a mirror in your house, or pin it to a bulletin board at your church, local cafe, workplace, etc.
Please share this message. Promote the idea that domestic violence can happen to anyone, and that there is support available.