This October, Tell Us How You See DV

October, Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM), starts today!

Last year, our 30 days of DVAM challenges had us talking about on-going wellness, evaluating our own behavior in relationships, building support systems and reaching out to friends and those in need.

This Domestic Violence Awareness Month, we’re focusing even more on you and want to hear How You See DV (domestic violence) within your life. Join us for our How I See DV campaign throughout the month to share your own message.

DV affects lives in different ways. Maybe you’ve witnessed or experienced it firsthand in your own home. Maybe you know someone else who has. Perhaps you’re noticing it more often in pop culture and news, or you overheard someone loudly yelling at their partner in public and it left you feeling unsettled (unhealthy behaviors are red flags — we’re talking about those, too).

This month, join us in this collaborative effort to bring more visibility to the growing problem of domestic violence. DV affects a large percentage of Americans but it’s still a taboo subject. We need to bring this ‘behind closed doors’ problem out into the open and acknowledge how it affects our communities, our families and our lives.

We Need You

This October, we’re inviting everyone to speak up. Tell us about a time when you saw domestic violence firsthand. Tell us about the effects of DV in your workplace, friend circle or larger community. Tell us why it is important to you to speak up now.

Here’s how:

  • Connect with us on Twitter and on Facebook and like/share our images, statuses and blog posts with your networks. Don’t forget to engage in discussions on our blog and Facebook pages by leaving comments
  • Tweet, Facebook, Vine, Instagram about the campaign, sharing your perspective on domestic violence by using the hashtag #SeeDV
  • Create a video around the campaign using Vine, Instagram Video or Youtube, linking your content to ours with the hashtag #SeeDV
  • Join us back here at the blog every Friday to see if one of your tweets, videos or photos has made our Friday round up
  • Let us know what you or your community are doing for DVAM

Read Blog Posts By Special Guest Writers

We’re starting the conversation around different perspectives on domestic violence by featuring guest writers all October. We reached out to free-thinking community leaders that range from athletes to activists. Check out our blog all month to see differing views on this very important issue.

Get Inspired

Need some inspiration? Check out our campaign landing page for ideas, as well as tweets and statuses you can use today.

HopeLine & Three Minutes for Three Million

This DVAM, we’re supporting HopeLine for Verizon. Sign up to host your own phone drive to help victims in need.

We also recently reached an important milestone at the hotline — we answered our three millionth call. To recognize this moment, we’re asking our friends to pledge Three Minutes for Three Million. Sign up and commit to spending three minutes actively strengthening a relationship in your life. This could mean spending three minutes calling a family member, catching up with a friend or even bonding with your significant other.

We look forward to spending this month raising awareness with you and sparking change by sharing how we #SeeDV.


We at the hotline care very deeply about the safety of anyone using our services. Please keep in mind that sharing personal stories could jeopardize your safety if you are currently in an abusive relationship, or have recently left an abusive partner. If you would like to discuss your unique situation and receive support, please call 1-800-799-7233.

5 replies
  1. Megan says:

    Its been 10 years since I finally left and 12 years since the day my life changed forever. The recovery and rehab followed for several years and I finally saw the pre-marriage Me, come back to life. I felt healed and fully recovered from so many deep wounds both physical & mental. I moved on in my mind and slowly realized that the post abuse Me wasn’t the pre marriage me at all & the changes

    • Megan says:

      I submitted before I finished. The balance is below.
      were not all good and I didn’t like the person I had become. After 15 years of battling my ex, I looked to initiate battles with anyone & everyone, fueling my anger which I felt justified about after the abuse I had endured. It took me a few years to realize that my ex was still controlling who I was and now causing self destruction & he ultimately won. I realized that I had to find a way to let it go forever if I wanted to heal and showing him I survived and emerged better than before proves he is powerless and I regain full control. The only way I could move on was to find the good that came from the evils and the many blessing I received from it. After that is was easy to forgive and remain focused on all the positives from the ex

      • HotlineAdmin_MK says:


        Thank you for sharing your story and congratulations on making it 10 years. It must have been very difficult dealing with the deep wounds of the emotional and physical abuse. Healing is a process that takes time. This process is different for everyone, thank you for sharing your journey through the process with us.


  2. Christie Kitchens says:

    I am a survivor of domestic abuse, verbal and in the end, physical. The thing that kept me in that relationship was my horse, and ultimately, he was the thing that got me out of it. I have been an animal lover my entire life and had a horse while I was growing up. When my kids graduated and I went through a divorce, I relocated and met a very charismatic man who had horses and took up riding again. Shortly into the relationship, I fell in love with one of his colts and he became “my” horse. I won’t go into all the drama that ensued, but I will say that I had him taken from me at gunpoint one day by my ex (I did get him back) and suffered so much anxiety over what he might do to the horse if I did not “mind” him. I’d seen him inflict plenty of abuse on many other animals – horses, dogs, cats and livestock. One day I was out riding and when I returned an hour later, he had undergone that Jeckyl and Hyde transformation, backed me up against the barn, drew back his fist and hit the horse in the mouth. The horse’s head came around and hit me in the head and the bit caught my lip, ripping it from my gums and breaking my nose. He stood there screaming “look what you made me do to your horse.” That was the final straw and as difficult as it was logistically and financially to GET AWAY, I did and took my beloved horse with me.

    In 2009 I was approached by my former counselor to try and advise another woman who was in the same position I had been in and see if we could come up with a plan for her to get out with the horses. Those efforts have turned into a non-profit organization we call Littlegrass Ranch, Inc. We are the only women’s shelter that will accept horses or other large livestock, as well as any small pets that come in the mix with the victim. An astounding number of victims will not leave without their animals – up to 83% we hear. Our mission is “To provide shelter, safety, and support for horsewomen and their horses” and our vision is “We believe no woman should ever compromise her own safety or security because of her love for animals. Our goal is to empower women so they will never have to remain a victim of any kind of abuse out of loyalty to those she cares for.”

    We hope that one day all shelters will be able to accept pets and animals belonging to victims. A “ps” to my story is that the stallion I loved so much lived to age 22 and shared his big, gentle soul with hundreds of kids and adults and became the “spokeshorse” for Littlegrass Ranch. He passed away this year but I can assure you, nobody EVER hurt that horse again. Saving him, saved me.

    • HotlineAdvocate_MT says:

      Dear Christie,
      What a moving story. Many of us at the hotline are animal lovers and know how they enhance our lives.We also know that abusers will often use pets as a way to control their victims and even inflict harm on them. How exciting that your experience led the way for you to open a domestic violence shelter that accepts livestock. Good luck with eveything and if the people at your shelter need any help please have them call us at the hotline (800)799-7233. We have a national directory of agencies that will help with pets of domestic violence victims.
      Hotline Advocate MT

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