Domestic Violence Awareness Month

DVAM Challenge 5: Know the Signs of Abuse

Over 500 people shared our photo from Challenge Four on Facebook! The DVAM Challenge is off to a great start!

During this week, we have reflected on how information is powerful in understanding and ending domestic violence. Being able to tell the signs of domestic violence is very challenging, especially when it is happening to someone we love or maybe even ourselves.

Please read the following signs of abuse.

It may be abuse if one partner:

– Embarrasses the other with put-downs
– Acts in ways that scares the other partner
– Controls what the other does, who they see or talk to or where they go
– Stops the other partner from seeing friends or family members
– Takes the other partner’s money or Social Security check, makes the other partner ask for money or refuses to give money
– Makes all of the decisions
– Tells the other partner that they’re a bad parent or threatens to take away or hurt their children
– Prevents the other partner from working or attending school
– Acts like the abuse is no big deal, it’s the victim’s fault, or even denies doing it
– Destroys property or threatens to kill family pets
– Intimidates with guns, knives or other weapons
– Shoves, slaps, chokes, or hits the other
– Threatens to commit suicide
– Threatens to kill their partner

For today’s challenge, please share these warning signs with someone you know. You can make it a Facebook status, send one out as a tweet, email or simply talk about warning signs with a friend.

If you are experiencing the signs above, please call our advocates at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or at TTY 1-800-787-3224.

3 replies
  1. Melissa says:

    What happens when the Accuser is really the Abuser. ? The” Victim” is a vindictive, sociopath with a history of aggressive and violent behavior lies and takes advantage of victims assistance programs to benefit herself monetarily and crusade to send an innocent man to prison. This “victim” used the Justice System, Religion and all of its resources to convict an innocent man of domestic violence. All of her lies have gained her the attention she craves and she continues to lie and deceive kind people that believe and support her. She was successful in destroying this man’s life taking him away from his 4 boys and his cancer stricken Mother who need him desperately at this time. Anyone that has known her longer than the past 2years knows the truth about her and can validate that she is a fraud and this is not the first time she has tried to do this to someone. Her abuse of the system takes away from the true victims of domestic violence.
    It is inconceivable that someone would go as far as to fabricate domestic violence to carry out revenge on their spouse for trying to end an unhealthy marriage. It happens a lot. Currently there is a Petition to Congress on the Internet concerning this very issue that Laws need to change. There is documentation and statements from witnesses that can confirm all of the above information regarding [removed] to be true and correct.

  2. Melissa says:

    This “victim ” is she inflicted injury to herself then lied to law enforcement, victims assistance , the District Attorneys office , womens safe haven and used all resources to benefit herself and send an innocent man to prison. She is the abuser and has been arrested for assault in the past. Witnesses have seen her abuse her children, past boyfriends, ex husbands, her friends, and her family.

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