DVAM challenge #3: Answer true or false to the statements below and then continue reading on to see how you did.
1. Domestic violence is not a problem in your community.
2. Couples counseling is recommended by The Hotline for abusive relationships.
3. Sometimes the victim provokes their partner into abusing them.
4. Yelling, putting down or belittling someone isn’t ever considered abuse.
5. On average, more than 3 women are murdered by their partners every day.
6. If the abuse was getting too bad, the victim would just leave.
7. The most dangerous time for a victim is often when their partner first lashes out.
8. Everyone deserves respect in a relationship.
9. If children aren’t being abused and don’t witness the abuse, they aren’t affected.
10. The cost of domestic violence is extremely high to society.
What do you think? How many are true and how many are false? Here’s the key:
1. False. Domestic violence happens in every community. Unfortunately many cases go unreported.
2. False. The Hotline does NOT recommend couple’s counseling when there is abuse in the relationship. It can be very dangerous to the partner being abused. An abuser may use what is said in therapy later against their partner. Individual counseling may be helpful but couple’s counseling is not recommended. Read more here.
3. False. Regardless of their actions, no one deserves to be physically, verbally or sexually abused.
4. False. Domestic violence is the pattern of behavior than an abuser uses to gain and maintain power and control over their partner. It can be physical, verbal or sexual.
5. True. Each year, domestic violence results in an estimated 1,200 deaths and 2 million injuries among women. Furthermore, domestic violence results in nearly 600,000 injuries among men (CDC).
6. False. Many victims love their partners despite the abuse or feel as if they have no support system or resources outside of the relationship and so they feel as if they can’t leave. Furthermore, the period immediately after leaving an abusive relationship is extremely dangerous.
7. False. Domestic violence typically worsens over time. Leaving is the most dangerous time for a victim because their abusive partner feels like they are losing power and control. The abuser may escalate the abuse in order to regain that power and control.
8. True. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused and there is no excuse for being physically, verbally or sexually violent toward a partner.
9. False. Children are extremely perceptive. Even if they don’t see the abuse happening, they feel its effects.
10. True. Each year, domestic violence costs more than $5.8 billion dollars, with $4.1 billion of that amount being spent directly on medical and mental health services (NCADV).
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