Comments on: Chad Johnson Arrested for Domestic Violence – A Lesson in Consequences http://www.thehotline.org/2012/08/chad-johnson-arrested-for-domestic-violence-%e2%80%93-a-lesson-in-consequences/ 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 22:39:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.2 By: HotlineAdmin_CH http://www.thehotline.org/2012/08/chad-johnson-arrested-for-domestic-violence-%e2%80%93-a-lesson-in-consequences/comment-page-1/#comment-9174 HotlineAdmin_CH Sun, 30 Sep 2012 01:01:04 +0000 http://www.thehotline.org/?p=3918#comment-9174 Mickey, Thank you for offering your support to our blog community. I want to direct you though, to our community guidelines (http://www.thehotline.org/community-guidelines/). We ask that you please refrain from offering advice or telling others what they should or shouldn't do. Because each situation has it's own differences and complexities, some avenues may be helpful for one person but not another. We ask that victims speak to a domestic violence advocate in order to determine the best plan of action for their particular circumstances. Please continue to participate in our blog, but instead offer words of encouragement rather than advice. HotlineAdvocate_CH Mickey,
Thank you for offering your support to our blog community. I want to direct you though, to our community guidelines (http://www.thehotline.org/community-guidelines/). We ask that you please refrain from offering advice or telling others what they should or shouldn’t do. Because each situation has it’s own differences and complexities, some avenues may be helpful for one person but not another. We ask that victims speak to a domestic violence advocate in order to determine the best plan of action for their particular circumstances. Please continue to participate in our blog, but instead offer words of encouragement rather than advice.

HotlineAdvocate_CH

]]> By: Mickey http://www.thehotline.org/2012/08/chad-johnson-arrested-for-domestic-violence-%e2%80%93-a-lesson-in-consequences/comment-page-1/#comment-9169 Mickey Sat, 29 Sep 2012 06:42:54 +0000 http://www.thehotline.org/?p=3918#comment-9169 Hi, I read your story and all I want to say is be careful he doesn't keep track of your cell phone calls. All it takes is a call that he can trace and you may have a problem. I advise you to seek a place to live and believe me the DV shelter can be home until your on your feet again. They will help you in so many ways. Take care, stay safe and get out! Hi, I read your story and all I want to say is be careful he doesn’t keep track of your cell phone calls. All it takes is a call that he can trace and you may have a problem. I advise you to seek a place to live and believe me the DV shelter can be home until your on your feet again. They will help you in so many ways. Take care, stay safe and get out!

]]> By: HotlineAdmin_MB http://www.thehotline.org/2012/08/chad-johnson-arrested-for-domestic-violence-%e2%80%93-a-lesson-in-consequences/comment-page-1/#comment-9140 HotlineAdmin_MB Wed, 26 Sep 2012 03:30:56 +0000 http://www.thehotline.org/?p=3918#comment-9140 Pamela, I am very glad you reached out for help through our blog community. Being in an abusive relationship can be confusing because you have love for someone even though you know they are hurting you and it is normal to hope that he will change. You are not a failure. There is no way you could have known that this man you met and married would become someone who is abusive. It sounds like you are in a lot of pain. Please call the Hotline for further support and guidance at 1-800-799-7233. Advocates are available 24 hours a day. If suicidal thoughts are clouding your mind you can also call the Suicide Hotline 24/7 at 1-800-273-8255. I hope you will continue to reach out for help. You are not alone. We have removed your last name for your safety. Hotlineadvocate_MB Pamela,

I am very glad you reached out for help through our blog community. Being in an abusive relationship can be confusing because you have love for someone even though you know they are hurting you and it is normal to hope that he will change. You are not a failure. There is no way you could have known that this man you met and married would become someone who is abusive. It sounds like you are in a lot of pain. Please call the Hotline for further support and guidance at 1-800-799-7233. Advocates are available 24 hours a day. If suicidal thoughts are clouding your mind you can also call the Suicide Hotline 24/7 at 1-800-273-8255.

I hope you will continue to reach out for help. You are not alone.
We have removed your last name for your safety.

Hotlineadvocate_MB

]]> By: pamela http://www.thehotline.org/2012/08/chad-johnson-arrested-for-domestic-violence-%e2%80%93-a-lesson-in-consequences/comment-page-1/#comment-9134 pamela Tue, 25 Sep 2012 19:44:09 +0000 http://www.thehotline.org/?p=3918#comment-9134 i've been married for two months now and my husband verbally abuses me. he makes me feel like garbage. i love him so much. i try my best to please him in all ways but he never seems satisfied.he complaines about me being too skinny( size 12) he mocks the way i talk,gives me dirty looks, and he always want me to give him oral sex. he never tries to satisfy me sexually. when ever he goes out and stay all day he don't want me to ask him any questions about where he's been.he's 6 years older than me and this is my first marriage. i know i'm foolish to think he will change.i'm afraid if i leave that my friends and family will see me as a failure. i feel kile i'm on the verge of committing suicide.PLEASE HELP. i’ve been married for two months now and my husband verbally abuses me. he makes me feel like garbage. i love him so much. i try my best to please him in all ways but he never seems satisfied.he complaines about me being too skinny( size 12) he mocks the way i talk,gives me dirty looks, and he always want me to give him oral sex. he never tries to satisfy me sexually. when ever he goes out and stay all day he don’t want me to ask him any questions about where he’s been.he’s 6 years older than me and this is my first marriage. i know i’m foolish to think he will change.i’m afraid if i leave that my friends and family will see me as a failure. i feel kile i’m on the verge of committing suicide.PLEASE HELP.

]]> By: HotlineAdmin_MB http://www.thehotline.org/2012/08/chad-johnson-arrested-for-domestic-violence-%e2%80%93-a-lesson-in-consequences/comment-page-1/#comment-9118 HotlineAdmin_MB Sat, 22 Sep 2012 02:13:43 +0000 http://www.thehotline.org/?p=3918#comment-9118 Muna, It is wonderful to hear that you are free and safe. Thank you for your encouraging words to our blog readers. It is important for those who are still in an abusive relationship to read the survival stories. Thank you for reaching out to the Share Your Voice community. Hotlineadvocate_MB Muna,

It is wonderful to hear that you are free and safe. Thank you for your encouraging words to our blog readers. It is important for those who are still in an abusive relationship to read the survival stories. Thank you for reaching out to the Share Your Voice community.

Hotlineadvocate_MB

]]> By: Muna http://www.thehotline.org/2012/08/chad-johnson-arrested-for-domestic-violence-%e2%80%93-a-lesson-in-consequences/comment-page-1/#comment-9114 Muna Fri, 21 Sep 2012 17:35:51 +0000 http://www.thehotline.org/?p=3918#comment-9114 I would like to share my story coz today is a day I have been waiting for 22 years. I was raped when I was very young and suffered from PTSD for so long. I just finished EMDR Eye Movement Desentisation and Reprocessing therapy with my councelor. And I am free now, I feel different so all I want to say is those of us who are suffering from rape, domestic abuse or any psychological and mental issue, I would like to say Never Give Up. There is always light at the end of the tunnel. I never thought I will turn off the light and sleep at night, never thought I would turn my back to my door and sleep and never thought also I would sleep without the fear of being raped again but though it takes a long time I am healed finally. Now, all I want to do is help those who have similar experience like mine and also those who are domestically abused. No matter what the abuser makes you feel low at your self never believe that..its only a deceit you are much more better than that and there are lots of people who love you, care for you and respect you for who you are. Donot allow the abuser to underestimate you. you are not what he sees in you. you are someone special, strong and courageous person and have a better vision of yourself. I would like to share my story coz today is a day I have been waiting for 22 years. I was raped when I was very young and suffered from PTSD for so long. I just finished EMDR Eye Movement Desentisation and Reprocessing therapy with my councelor. And I am free now, I feel different so all I want to say is those of us who are suffering from rape, domestic abuse or any psychological and mental issue, I would like to say Never Give Up. There is always light at the end of the tunnel. I never thought I will turn off the light and sleep at night, never thought I would turn my back to my door and sleep and never thought also I would sleep without the fear of being raped again but though it takes a long time I am healed finally. Now, all I want to do is help those who have similar experience like mine and also those who are domestically abused. No matter what the abuser makes you feel low at your self never believe that..its only a deceit you are much more better than that and there are lots of people who love you, care for you and respect you for who you are. Donot allow the abuser to underestimate you. you are not what he sees in you. you are someone special, strong and courageous person and have a better vision of yourself.

]]> By: Janet http://www.thehotline.org/2012/08/chad-johnson-arrested-for-domestic-violence-%e2%80%93-a-lesson-in-consequences/comment-page-1/#comment-9103 Janet Wed, 19 Sep 2012 21:07:27 +0000 http://www.thehotline.org/?p=3918#comment-9103 I can truely relate to what your going through. In the past two years I had to leave my home and have and still go through so much day to day due to an abusive husband. I had a decent job, which meant I was not qualified for any legal assistance or beniftis. Police would come take notes and threaten to take my child away if they had to come back to our home, so that kept me from calling when I was getting abused. I was told by a cop quote " well you got a good job, why don't you move". Like it was that easy. Eventually, with no other solution I did just that... I would not let a home or bank account be what kept me in such a tormenting situation. It is hard, but worth it, if you are willing to be very strong and resiliant. I get get text message from my ex, he shows off things that goes on in the house. I laugh cause he still at this stage tries to antagonize me but again that house is shell. i am flesh and blood who deserves better.,,,You deserve better. Additionally you need to talk to your children, especially if they are at college age. i am sure they will be supportive and understand why you had to make your decision to leave. They are your children and will love you no matter what happens. I can truely relate to what your going through. In the past two years I had to leave my home and have and still go through so much day to day due to an abusive husband. I had a decent job, which meant I was not qualified for any legal assistance or beniftis. Police would come take notes and threaten to take my child away if they had to come back to our home, so that kept me from calling when I was getting abused. I was told by a cop quote ” well you got a good job, why don’t you move”. Like it was that easy. Eventually, with no other solution I did just that… I would not let a home or bank account be what kept me in such a tormenting situation. It is hard, but worth it, if you are willing to be very strong and resiliant. I get get text message from my ex, he shows off things that goes on in the house. I laugh cause he still at this stage tries to antagonize me but again that house is shell. i am flesh and blood who deserves better.,,,You deserve better. Additionally you need to talk to your children, especially if they are at college age. i am sure they will be supportive and understand why you had to make your decision to leave. They are your children and will love you no matter what happens.

]]> By: HotlineAdmin_CH http://www.thehotline.org/2012/08/chad-johnson-arrested-for-domestic-violence-%e2%80%93-a-lesson-in-consequences/comment-page-1/#comment-9080 HotlineAdmin_CH Sun, 16 Sep 2012 01:30:55 +0000 http://www.thehotline.org/?p=3918#comment-9080 Sharon, I am so sorry to hear the difficulties you face do to your abusive husband. It is truly unfortunate that often the justice system does not protect abused women and therefore many are left vulnerable. It can feel very lonely and overwhelming to consider all of the things that could happen if you left the situation. Most communities do have domestic violence programs that can offer women support throughout the process of getting to safety whether that's an immediate need or a future goal. You are always welcome to call the hotline at 800-799-7233 (24/7) and we can locate what supportive resources are available in your area. If you feel that you are not ready to leave that is completely your choice but there are some things to keep in mind while living with an abuser. Please check out our webpage entitled Safety Planning (http://www.thehotline.org/get-help/safety-planning/ ) for some important information about staying safe. Thank you so much for sharing your story with the Share Your Voice blog community and we encourage you to continue to use this forum as a source of support. Take care, HotlineAdvocate_CH Sharon,
I am so sorry to hear the difficulties you face do to your abusive husband. It is truly unfortunate that often the justice system does not protect abused women and therefore many are left vulnerable. It can feel very lonely and overwhelming to consider all of the things that could happen if you left the situation. Most communities do have domestic violence programs that can offer women support throughout the process of getting to safety whether that’s an immediate need or a future goal. You are always welcome to call the hotline at 800-799-7233 (24/7) and we can locate what supportive resources are available in your area. If you feel that you are not ready to leave that is completely your choice but there are some things to keep in mind while living with an abuser. Please check out our webpage entitled Safety Planning (http://www.thehotline.org/get-help/safety-planning/ ) for some important information about staying safe. Thank you so much for sharing your story with the Share Your Voice blog community and we encourage you to continue to use this forum as a source of support.

Take care,
HotlineAdvocate_CH

]]> By: Sharon http://www.thehotline.org/2012/08/chad-johnson-arrested-for-domestic-violence-%e2%80%93-a-lesson-in-consequences/comment-page-1/#comment-9065 Sharon Fri, 14 Sep 2012 17:53:08 +0000 http://www.thehotline.org/?p=3918#comment-9065 Iv'e been told my only choice is to leave....I have properties and children that still count on me while they finish college....If I lose everthing they do too. This is the only crime where the criminal gets the keys to the house and the bank account.. the woman and children should go into the gutter..Attorneys are more than happy to take his money and use your marital income against you.... there are no attorneys I could pay.... If an intruder came into your home and you defended your family you would be considered a hero.... If its your husband and you fight back you go to jail. Mine is trained...I am 4'11" 100 lbs The judge put a restraining order on me.... All bogus and provable that it was a lie.... my story is complicated.... I have learned there is little meaningful help..... I looked and found none. OJ Simpson, Sandusky, etc.... just a few of the good old boys that were given the bro's before ho's salute... when do women get the support..... Iv’e been told my only choice is to leave….I have properties and children that still count on me while they finish college….If I lose everthing they do too. This is the only crime where the criminal gets the keys to the house and the bank account.. the woman and children should go into the gutter..Attorneys are more than happy to take his money and use your marital income against you…. there are no attorneys I could pay…. If an intruder came into your home and you defended your family you would be considered a hero…. If its your husband and you fight back you go to jail. Mine is trained…I am 4’11″ 100 lbs The judge put a restraining order on me…. All bogus and provable that it was a lie…. my story is complicated…. I have learned there is little meaningful help….. I looked and found none. OJ Simpson, Sandusky, etc…. just a few of the good old boys that were given the bro’s before ho’s salute… when do women get the support…..

]]> By: HotlineAdmin_RE http://www.thehotline.org/2012/08/chad-johnson-arrested-for-domestic-violence-%e2%80%93-a-lesson-in-consequences/comment-page-1/#comment-9057 HotlineAdmin_RE Thu, 13 Sep 2012 19:37:38 +0000 http://www.thehotline.org/?p=3918#comment-9057 Pamela, Thank you for contacting the Share Your Voice blog. I am really concerned about your safety. Living with an abusive partner who owns firearms can increase the level of danger for you. Also, his unpredictable behavior and drug use sound really scary. There is no excuse for him to treat you like this. When you get a safe chance, I would encourage you to call and speak with an advocate here on the National Domestic Violence Hotline, at 1-800-799-7233. We are 24/7, so you could call at any point when you can be safe to talk. An advocate on the Hotline could talk to you about what's going on, and help you safety plan around living in this kind of environment. Also, there may be a local domestic violence shelter that could help. Please give us a call when you get a chance. HotlineAdvocate_RE Pamela,
Thank you for contacting the Share Your Voice blog. I am really concerned about your safety. Living with an abusive partner who owns firearms can increase the level of danger for you. Also, his unpredictable behavior and drug use sound really scary. There is no excuse for him to treat you like this. When you get a safe chance, I would encourage you to call and speak with an advocate here on the National Domestic Violence Hotline, at 1-800-799-7233. We are 24/7, so you could call at any point when you can be safe to talk. An advocate on the Hotline could talk to you about what’s going on, and help you safety plan around living in this kind of environment. Also, there may be a local domestic violence shelter that could help. Please give us a call when you get a chance.

HotlineAdvocate_RE

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