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Alcohol Abuse Hotline | The Addiction Hotline — Wed, 10 Apr 2013 00:06:49 +0000

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By: HotlineAdmin_MB

HotlineAdmin_MB — Wed, 15 Aug 2012 04:00:42 +0000

Ingrid,

Thank you for sharing your survivor story with our blog community. You are right that alcoholism is not the reason for abuse; it can definitely make matters worse, but there are many alcoholics out there who would never hurt their partners. Domestic violence is a spectrum that includes verbal, emotional, controlling, and physical abuse.

It sounds like your healing process needed to occur in its own time. I am very happy to hear that you are married (to a wonderful man) and in a healthier environment. I know our readers really appreciate hearing an encouraging and honest voice, so thank you again for telling your story on our blog.

Hotlineadvocate_MB

By: Ingrid

Ingrid — Wed, 15 Aug 2012 03:27:59 +0000

I was in an abusive relationship 10 years ago with an alcoholic. I did and still blame the alcohol for what he did to me. I just hate the fact that I still make excuses for him even after all this time. Since the abuse was more emotional, mental, and sexual I also tend to think it wasn’t “real” abuse but I have finally come to terms with the fact that it WAS abuse. Moving forward was a slower process than I thought it would be. However , I was able to make steps and I did marry a wonderful man two years ago. I just wanted to tell everyone there is a future beyond the abuse and to have hope.

By: deb

deb — Tue, 07 Aug 2012 00:30:23 +0000

Both of these comments give me hope. As much as I try to envision myself in a happy and healthy relationship in the future, it’s difficult. Putting all barriers in place such as changing my phone number while he was in jail to only have him pay online to get it, which I did not know you could do. The insanity continues until I guess he will someday get tired of the chase. That is my hope because I have moved on realizing that this time was different. There were two choices…get out then deal with the pain or stay in pain and live an empty life with the potential that he could potentially end my life. I am not out of the woods as the trial is in 2 months however for now I have peace and no longer wish for the fairy tale with this man. That story has ended. So thank you for giving me hope for the future.

By: HotlineAdmin_SS

HotlineAdmin_SS — Sun, 05 Aug 2012 03:16:38 +0000

Hi Sylvia,

Domestic Violence can be a very difficult thing to deal with. Healing can take time and what you are experiencing is normal. If you ever want to call the National Domestic Violence Hotline for support you are welcome to. The Hotline is available 24/7, so even if it’s in the middle of the night you can always call and talk to someone.

I am glad to read that you are now married to a wonderful man!

Thanks for posting in our blog community,
HotlineAdvocate_SS

By: Sylvia

Sylvia — Thu, 02 Aug 2012 20:40:47 +0000

I was a victim of Domestic Violence for about a year. Was scared to leave since I did not know how badly it would get if I were to leave. When I finally got a way it was like a cloud was lifted. Still to this day I can not talk about many things that happened and only a few people really know. I have been away for five years and now I am married to a wonderful man. Although I am married to him I still sometimes have nightmares of things that happened! Domestic Violence is a hard thing to deal with.

By: Kendall

Kendall — Thu, 02 Aug 2012 17:41:24 +0000

I too recently shared my experience with domestic violence on my blog. I made the decision to leave, it has been 5 years now and I am happy to say that I am now married to the love of my life.

Kendall
http://sexandthesuburb.com/walking-away-from-domestic-violence/