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The Best Gift You Can Give Your Valentine is a Healthy Relationship

The most popular gifts loved ones give each other for Valentine’s day are roses, chocolates and jewelry. Yes, it is nice to get the flowers and treats, but it is also nice to know that you are in a loving and secure relationship. The best gift you can give a loved one is the gift of a healthy relationship year-round.

Here are some tips to a healthy relationship:

  • Be respectful, thoughtful and kind. This sounds simple enough but there are times when our own emotions get in the way and we take out our stress and anger on those we love.
  • Be honest and talk openly with each other if something is bothering you. If there is conflict, see if there is a compromise that suits you both.
  • Be supportive of each other’s successes and also be there for one another when things don’t go quite right.
  • Maintain your own identities and spend some time apart so that you do not become dependent on each other and isolated from friends and family.

If you’re a parent, remember that maintaining a healthy relationship is also good for your children. They mimic what they see at home so show them through your own relationship what they should look for in a partner. It is never too early to talk with your children about how to develop a healthy relationship.

Consider these goals for teaching your children about relationships:

  • Ensure they respect other people and other people’s property.
  • Show them how to address a situation that makes them angry without using violence or angry words.
  • If they have a problem with a friend, talk to them about compromises.
  • Teach them that there are consequences for our actions. Kids need to know this, even at an early age.

There is no such thing as a perfect relationship but you should strive for a healthy relationship that makes you happy and doesn’t cause you an inordinate amount of stress. Everyone deserves love, dignity and respect in their relationship.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

5 replies
  1. Lynn says:

    Hi there, My name is Lynn and I am a SURVIVOR of domestic violence. Three years ago on Feb. 19, 2008 my ex-husband shot me 7 times in the face, chest and left arm, just two weeks after our divorce was final. He then committed suicide in front of our two teenage daughters in our driveway. I endured 18 yrs of verbal and emotional abuse by this man. I have to admit that I did not see that I was being abused until I got out and had a chance to really look back at everything. Boy was that an eye opener. I have started public speaking, in hopes of helping others and breaking the cycle. My new mission in life is to fight this battle, not only for my own daughters and family, but for others as well.

  2. HotlineAdmin_RE says:

    Thank you for sharing your story with our blog community. You are a survivor! I am glad to hear you are speaking out about the abuse you endured. It can be empowering for other people in similar situations to know that they are not alone. There may be someone who hears you speak one day and who decides to make a change in their own life. You are empowering yourself as well, and breaking the silence that often surrounds domestic violence situations. The Hotline is always available as a resource to you if you need someone to talk to, or if you want to find local or national organizations that you could get involved with.


  3. Sunshine says:

    Hi my name is Sonya and I am a domestic violence survivor, I just graduated with my BS degree, my passion is to help others. I would love to have information about local or national organizations that I may connect with.
    I as well would love to share my story in a public forum or volunteer my time.
    Thank you

    • NDVH Hotline Advocate_kk says:

      Oh, Sunshine:

      Thank you for sharing your interest in telling your story and/or working with other programs in the process of doing that and/or helping others. Please feel free to call the hotline at 1-800-799-7233 and an advocate would be glad to match you up with a program in your area.

      NDVH Hotline Advocate_kk

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