I just had my prolift mesh removed, and all those around me didn’t believe that I could be sick like I was for so long. *8 months). The mesh had eroded “down there” and was causing pain and bleeding, bot to mention EXTREME fatigue. NOBODY believed me-I bet nobody would believe that my husband pushed me hard enough today to make me fly backwards, hit an aluminum garbage can, and make what I was holding (a bowl of dog food) fly all over the carpet. He told me afterwards that he was sorry. He pushed me too hard, but he also said I had been being talking down to him. What about the fact that I asked (from the other room) “Could someone please let the dog out?” He came into the room I was in and said nobody can do anything with the dog (meaning him and my 3 kids). They heard him talk to me like that in the other room, so what do you think happened when I came into the next room where the kids were and asked if one of them would go fill up the dish with food? I got an eye roll, a “no”, a total LACK OF RESPECT. Gee-I wonder where they picked that up from! My husband had just made it perfectly clear that nobody was to help me with the dog.

You said it right when you said “it’s never their fault.” “You made them do it.”

Allison

I am one of the lucky one’s who has survived domestic violence, stalking and cyberstalking. I believed falsely that there were privacy protection programs in place and that as a former high-tech investigator reporting the use of technology to stalk would be an easy task. I am living proof it is not.

For 5 years I have been advocating for improved privacy protection measures for victims of crime and I am hoping those reading this blog today will reach out and unite with me to help in aiding all victims of crime in the fight against the use of technology to stalk.

Batterers will only have the upper hand if we allow them too. They prey on the weak, timid and the unprepared.

I am an advocate for self-help and for victims to be their own best advocate but they must have assistance in order to do this and that is why I founded Survivors In Action-so that no other man, woman or child would endure what I did 5 years ago.

Ignorance is not bliss and victims deserve all of the resources and protections we can provide to them.

Alexis A. Moore, President
Survivors In Action
“No Victim Left Behind”
survivorsinaction.com
AlexisAMoore.blogspot.com

One person can make a difference! If you are a victim of domestic violence, cyberstalking, traditional stalking, sexual assault or a cyber crime you are not alone! Reach out for help and hold those accountable who fail who are paid to perform.

IN the abuser’s mind….IT IS ALL YOUR FAULT. ( “It’s her fault.” “It’s his fault” “It’s a bad day’s fault” It’s the drug’s, alcohol’s, bipolar’s, next door neighbor’s dog’s, cat’s and the car’s fault” “It’s everything else’s and everyone else’s fault, but not mine.”) In the abuser’s mind: YOU made him or her do it.

IN REALITY: The abuser IS DELUDED. The abuser MUST learn that his or her own actions are his or her own danged fault because THE ABUSER IS MAKING A DECISION TO BEHAVE IN THAT WAY and then DOING the behavior.

IF it isn’t him when in reality it most certainly is him: HE IS DELUDED, and wants you to be deluded too. As long as he keeps convincing himself that he has pulled the wool over your eyes by lying…he will believe that you are deluded because you should be because he deluded you. (in his mind). DO CALL THE POLICE. EVERY SINGLE TIME. LEAVE THE HOUSE, and call the police. Scream out the windows, the doors, wherever.

SO, Yap everything! Hey, if it weren’t being done in the first place; nobody would have to report, talk about, or discuss, or consult with anybody, respond, react, or take nececessary/ appropriate actions regarding the incidents in the first place. AND, nobody would have to be embarrassed about their own abusive behavior, if a person isn’t being abusive to anyone. Right?

AND,

Always remember..the victim has the upper hand because the abuser gives us control over what we’re going to do about it! Yay! NO JUDGE, COP, OR PERSON can, or will FORCE an abuse victim to have to stay with an abuser or attacker. THERE is NO mandate manmade, or natural that requires a victim to stay with someone who does not like him or her so much that he or she has to stay there getting attacked.

I have been in a relationship for about 2 years now. The other night i called the police because i was scared of my partner we got int a argument and he started hurting me police came to my home but because he had scratch marks on him I didnt get a dvo or the epo . I called for help cause he choking me and smuthering me with a pillow and putting his arms around me tigtly and saying thing how i am his only how my face is only his. I ended up being the one in trouble caus ehe has marks on him from self defence to try get him off me. I feel that the police in these cases if not enough evidence if your not hurt bad enough no evidence you wont get help from them.

I will never call polivce again for help when i am scared or if it happens again.
I want to apply for one against him
he hurt me i only scratched hi self diffecnce its not fair that police put order on me
its a joke.

He says its not him
and it wont happen again but it does

Besides that, there have been attempts to make people believe (and my children) that I “took a bunch of money (about 2 million dollars) and ran off with some man.”

All the methods and techniques are that of a relative of mine. Lately, my ten year old son’s birth certificate went missing., the info. previously on my credit reports is no longer there (now that I have all three and would have been able to use them to report identity theft), I’m supposedly “psychotic”, my abusers have things set up to appear as if they do nothing to me, etc.

I was told that my computer is bugged: ” Somebody paid me $500.00 to bring your laptop out to a car. They connected a computer to it, did something on the keyboard, and then put a chip in the computer and in the air card. I did it while you were asleep.” Then I was told that it never happened.

I get told that I can’t prove anything. I’m supposed to be an owner of an estate with a relative, and for some reason cut off. (Which means, a white collar crime has been committed against me). Nobody will investigate or help me.

I had never previously associated any abuse on me with money; but it involves identity theft of my identity. Everything is twisted around to make it look like what is really going on isn’t happening, etc. I sent an email to my local abuse organization, got a response from them to call. I called. She hung up on me; it’s the Coalition Against Rape and Abuse (CARA). My local abuse organization refuses to help me. I’m going to publicize this: The object is to make me disappear. If I end up dead. Everyone knows nobody would help me.