Comments on: Share Your Voice http://www.thehotline.org/2009/05/share-your-voice/ 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224 Fri, 03 Feb 2012 17:19:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: HotlineAdmin_MH http://www.thehotline.org/2009/05/share-your-voice/comment-page-1/#comment-93 HotlineAdmin_MH Thu, 14 May 2009 18:59:05 +0000 http://www.ndvh.org/?p=784#comment-93 NDVH maintains a database of programs around the country and helps connect families with programs in their local communities. It might not be safe to give out this information through the blog, but if you will call us at 800-799-7233 or email us through our web page: http://www.ndvh.org/get-help/contact-the-hotline/ we will get you connected to your local program. We will be able to respond to you more quickly over the phone than via email. Please know that you are not alone and there is help out there. NDVH maintains a database of programs around the country and helps connect families with programs in their local communities. It might not be safe to give out this information through the blog, but if you will call us at 800-799-7233 or email us through our web page:
http://www.ndvh.org/get-help/contact-the-hotline/
we will get you connected to your local program. We will be able to respond to you more quickly over the phone than via email.
Please know that you are not alone and there is help out there.

]]> By: Sherice http://www.thehotline.org/2009/05/share-your-voice/comment-page-1/#comment-92 Sherice Thu, 14 May 2009 18:43:17 +0000 http://www.ndvh.org/?p=784#comment-92 I would like to find out about who here locally can help me and my children to leave this situation and this state. I would like to find out about who here locally can help me and my children to leave this situation and this state.

]]> By: Rossy http://www.thehotline.org/2009/05/share-your-voice/comment-page-1/#comment-91 Rossy Wed, 13 May 2009 21:06:24 +0000 http://www.ndvh.org/?p=784#comment-91 This letter is about my local county family court system and a brief hearing in the court system today. My husband is the abuser. He comes from a family that feels they're above the law. They believe that they can hurt, harm or kill with little or no consequence. My husband's father abused his wife both physically and verbally. Since we have been married in 1994...my husband who is currently in law enforcement has pushed me, grabbed me, pinned me down, squeazed my neck and has threatened me with bodily harm. The outside world would never believe how violent he is and can be. As a substitute teacher years ago, he was overly aggressive with one of the students. I've called the police a half a dozen times on him. I've never pressed charges against my husband because I didn't want to stigmatize him as an abuser/jail bird in the eyes of our young son. With the recent deaths of close family members...I've decided enough is enough. The last time my husband pushed me (April 23, 2009), I went to the police department to request a restraining order against him. My local police department told me that I needed to file with the local Magistrate's Office (MO). When the Magistrate's Office (MO) opened on the 23rd of April, I went in and explained my situation. The clerk at the MO's office told me that I needed to go to the local family court to file such an order. The run around... I made my way to family court and completed a Petition for Order of Protection, a Financial Statement Report, an Information Sheet for the county Sheriff's Dept...I took a copy of everything that I completed to the Sheriff's Dept. I don't know when they served my husband notice but as defiant as he is-he did not stay away from me; he continued to reside at the home. Again he did it because no one tells him what to do. I did not call the police because again my family has had two losses this year and can't bear much more... so I kept my mouth close because I knew our date in court would come and that the judge would spell it out to my husband. ...I mentioned earlier that he and his family are above the law if you asked them. No one tells them what to do...they say what they're going to do. At today's hearing my husband disagreed with my request for child and spousal support. I did not bring along my notarized witness of abuse testimony nor did I have the transcript of CAD Calls/Police Incident Reports (from my local police department) handy in court today. None the less the judge himself ordered us not to have any contact with each other at all; plus stay away from each other, he said. My husband commented to the judge that he is still a resident of our home. He asked the judge who gets to stay in the home while we're pending evidence... The judge's response was whoever gets there first...unbelievable...and his strict order again was to stay away from each other. The judged himself issued a restraining order which I thought was on my behalf because I initially filed the petition on April 23rd. Before dismissing my husband and myself, the judge told us to see the clerk of court to schedule a near future court date. While in the clerk's office, the clerk asked each of us our address; I told her mine which is my residence. My husband told the clerk that his address is the same as mine. The clerk responded that the address could not be the same because of the domestic violence petition and restraining order... The clerk proceeds to asks both of us additional questions in regards to my domestic violence case...all in front of absolute strangers who are sitting in the wait area. Here is the bizarre thing...the clerk instructs my husband to complete a Petitition for Order of Protection against me... Can you imagine how victimized and ill I'm feeling right now? My case discussed in front of strangers. And why does he need protection from me I'm thinking? Then the clerk goes away and comes back and says...the judge says whoever arrives at the residence first gets to stay there. While the clerk is away, strangers in the lobby area are trying to give me advice about my case...unbelievable. My question is...does any of this make sense to you? Does someone have to die in order for the law to change? The county in which I live in has a high domestic death rate and little is being done on behalf of the victims. This letter is about my local county family court system and a brief hearing in the court system today.
My husband is the abuser.
He comes from a family that feels they’re above the law.
They believe that they can hurt, harm or kill with little or no consequence.
My husband’s father abused his wife both physically and verbally.
Since we have been married in 1994…my husband who is currently in law enforcement has pushed me, grabbed me, pinned me down, squeazed my neck and has threatened me with bodily harm.
The outside world would never believe how violent he is and can be.
As a substitute teacher years ago, he was overly aggressive with one of the students.

I’ve called the police a half a dozen times on him.
I’ve never pressed charges against my husband because I didn’t want to stigmatize him as an abuser/jail bird in the eyes of our young son.
With the recent deaths of close family members…I’ve decided enough is enough.
The last time my husband pushed me (April 23, 2009), I went to the police department to request a restraining order against him.
My local police department told me that I needed to file with the local Magistrate’s Office (MO).
When the Magistrate’s Office (MO) opened on the 23rd of April, I went in and explained my situation.
The clerk at the MO’s office told me that I needed to go to the local family court to file such an order. The run around…

I made my way to family court and completed a Petition for Order of Protection, a Financial Statement Report, an Information Sheet for the county Sheriff’s Dept…I took a copy of everything that I completed to the Sheriff’s Dept.

I don’t know when they served my husband notice but as defiant as he is-he did not stay away from me; he continued to reside at the home.
Again he did it because no one tells him what to do.

I did not call the police because again my family has had two losses this year and can’t bear much more…
so I kept my mouth close because I knew our date in court would come and that the judge would spell it out to my husband.
…I mentioned earlier that he and his family are above the law if you asked them.

No one tells them what to do…they say what they’re going to do.
At today’s hearing my husband disagreed with my request for child and spousal support.
I did not bring along my notarized witness of abuse testimony nor did I have the transcript of CAD Calls/Police Incident Reports (from my local police department) handy in court today.
None the less the judge himself ordered us not to have any contact with each other at all; plus stay away from each other, he said.
My husband commented to the judge that he is still a resident of our home.
He asked the judge who gets to stay in the home while we’re pending evidence…
The judge’s response was whoever gets there first…unbelievable…and his strict order again was to stay away from each other.

The judged himself issued a restraining order which I thought was on my behalf because I initially filed the petition on April 23rd.
Before dismissing my husband and myself, the judge told us to see the clerk of court to schedule a near future court date.

While in the clerk’s office, the clerk asked each of us our address;
I told her mine which is my residence.
My husband told the clerk that his address is the same as mine.
The clerk responded that the address could not be the same because of the domestic violence petition and restraining order…

The clerk proceeds to asks both of us additional questions in regards to my domestic violence case…all in front of absolute strangers who are sitting in the wait area.
Here is the bizarre thing…the clerk instructs my husband to complete a Petitition for Order of Protection against me…
Can you imagine how victimized and ill I’m feeling right now?
My case discussed in front of strangers.
And why does he need protection from me I’m thinking?
Then the clerk goes away and comes back and says…the judge says whoever arrives at the residence first gets to stay there.
While the clerk is away, strangers in the lobby area are trying to give me advice about my case…unbelievable.

My question is…does any of this make sense to you?
Does someone have to die in order for the law to change?
The county in which I live in has a high domestic death rate and little is being done on behalf of the victims.

]]> By: kell http://www.thehotline.org/2009/05/share-your-voice/comment-page-1/#comment-88 kell Tue, 12 May 2009 17:06:39 +0000 http://www.ndvh.org/?p=784#comment-88 hello, i would just like you all to know , you are not alone. Domestic abuse is one of the hardest things to go through and to even walk away from. It hurts because you never thought the person you fell in love with could ever hurt you that badly. To me , the mental abuse hurt more. I could take a smack here and there , a push a grab, or even a punch. But to be reminded every day that you suck, your fat, your stupid, or the best "you will never find anyone better then me ." To hear those words is like knives stabbing you in the heart. To know the man/woman you love can say such hateful words. The saying "sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me," is fine when you are little. but once you begin to grow older, and hear those horrible words everyday, you begin to believe them. and no matter how hard you try to walk away, you remember "you cant do any better" or "you deserve it." i used to make a thousand excuses for his actions. no matter what its NOT acceptable. hello,
i would just like you all to know , you are not alone.
Domestic abuse is one of the hardest things to go through and to even walk away from. It hurts because you never thought the person you fell in love with could ever hurt you that badly. To me , the mental abuse hurt more. I could take a smack here and there , a push a grab, or even a punch. But to be reminded every day that you suck, your fat, your stupid, or the best “you will never find anyone better then me .” To hear those words is like knives stabbing you in the heart. To know the man/woman you love can say such hateful words. The saying “sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me,” is fine when you are little. but once you begin to grow older, and hear those horrible words everyday, you begin to believe them. and no matter how hard you try to walk away, you remember “you cant do any better” or “you deserve it.” i used to make a thousand excuses for his actions. no matter what its NOT acceptable.

]]> By: RHONDA http://www.thehotline.org/2009/05/share-your-voice/comment-page-1/#comment-87 RHONDA Tue, 12 May 2009 01:00:33 +0000 http://www.ndvh.org/?p=784#comment-87 I am a family law attorney. I am also a domestic violence victim. Most people find it hard to believe, and I do have a great deal of shame about this. I am a good attorney, but for the longest time I kept thinking that maybe I was not such a great attorney because I could not get rid of this man. I married him, and a month after the marriage, I became pregnant. Things were fine with us up to this point, but he immediately started the abusive behavior upon learning of my pregnancy. We were in a plane heading back from his father's funeral when I told him I was really sick and thought I was pregnant. He decided to celebrate by drinking, whispering in the ear of the woman next to him , giggling, laughing, and grabbing her leg. I told him he was embarrassing me, and he said he was just being friendly. When we came back home, he started being friendly to any woman he came across. He even asked me for some money for a birthday present (I did the bills before I became bedridden) and then sent it to some woman online whom he had told he wanted to be with her. When confronted, he said that she was stupid to believe any guy online. Then he denied he had sent her the money but never produced a gift. I was bedridden quickly thereafter, dealing with immense pain and in no shape to confront him during the pregnancy. I thought that maybe he would straighten out after our son was born. The agreement was that he would stay home with our son while I worked. About a month into this arrangement, I felt something was wrong and put a recorder on the phone line. It turned out that he had a woman he was sleeping with that he found out had an STD and he was upset about it. He then made a phone call to a drug dealer to have drugs delivered that morning to the house while I was at work. I was shaking and terrified after I listened to this, knowing my son was alone with him. I went to the police station, filed a report, and the judge granted an emergency order. They escorted him out of the house. The next several days, he would set off my house alarm. I knew it was him and explained to the officers the situation. They refused to acknowledge that it could be him, and started charging me $100 every time the alarm was set off. They finally told me that if I did not disable the alarm, they would "take their time" responding to any other calls from my home. I disabled the alarm, and a night or two later he slipped into the house in the middle of the night, disabled the phones, and then pulled me out of the bed where I was sleeping by my hair. He proceeded to slap, choke, bend my glasses, and pull out clumps of my hair. At one point I managed to get the front door open and scream, but I think my neighbors were afraid of him and nobody called the police. I even had police officers who lived right down the street. After several restraining orders that he violated and was never in jail for long for, I left California because he kept stalking me at the firms I worked at. He would just show up because he knew I wouldn't want a scene at work. I moved to Arkansas, hoping to be able to use the money from the house I sold to buy a small house and care for my son who has Aspberger's. I tried to file for divorce a few times, but he always dodged service, and then showed up on the weekends when he knew they would not serve him. I was punched and slapped any time I tried to make him leave the home. The worst time was when he slapped me so hard that my head hit the door frame I was standing in. I had a lump that fit my cupped hand for at least three months afterward. I also had a huge slap bruise on my face. I begged him to let me go to the hospital. He refused. He picked up a pickle jar and slammed it into his own face in case I tried to call the police and have him arrested. He threatened that he would see to it we were both arrested. I was absolutely terrified of him. The police either did not want to help or could not help, or blamed me. I had suicidal thoughts once, was totally discouraged and felt trapped and helpless all the time, and angry at God who did not seem to hear my pleas to intercede. I became pregnant one night when he forced himself on me. I love my daughter, but bawled when I found out he had something else to hold over me. I finally had to leave the beautiful home I bought and escape to live in a trailer in Georgia with a man who was kind enough to want to help me. I am happier now than I ever was. He tried to file for divorce without telling me, hoping I would not find out and he would be awarded my home. I just happened to really feel like I needed to file and my attorney told me he had already filed. He then hoped that the judge would force me to return to Arkansas under the guise of allowing him to see his children, but thankfully that did not happen. He called the children only to try to talk to me, but I refused. He has stopped calling, does not exercise his visitation, and is not paying his court ordered child support. My house is sitting in a nice neighborhood looking like an eyesore because I cannot go back and he is not maintaining the home like he was court ordered to do. I also found out that the attorney handling my case is completely incompetent. Over a month after my hearing and the protective order that was supposed to be filed has not been filed. I have no protective order to show any police agency. So I am going to go back and do what I know how to do - be a family law attorney. I am going to be confident and not taking anything from anyone. I will leave no stone unturned. He will not win this time. I just wanted to share my story to let you out there know that this is NOT YOUR FAULT. Don't listen to people who try to blame you. It didn't happen to you because you are stupid or too spineless to stand up for yourself. The problem is HIM, there is something seriously wrong with these men, not you. It isn't love. I know he does not love me, but is addicted to me in a very twisted way. You can't give up, though believe me I know you want to. I have a discussion group on myspace called, "Never Again - Domestic Violence." I am here for anyone who needs encouragement. It gives me the strength to deal with this man who has done everything in his power to break me. When this is over, I will be helping victims any way I can. I plan to move to California when it becomes feasible, and opening a practice that reaches out especially to victims of domestic violence. I cannot EVER turn my back on my suffering sister after what I have been through. Sharing what is happening and reaching out until someone listens is all you can do sometimes. Don't ever give up, don't let him win. Those women who lie and say they are abused to gain advantage in court, SHAME ON YOU!!! You are making it harder for those of us who are truly suffering to get help. Have a conscience. I am a family law attorney. I am also a domestic violence victim. Most people find it hard to believe, and I do have a great deal of shame about this. I am a good attorney, but for the longest time I kept thinking that maybe I was not such a great attorney because I could not get rid of this man. I married him, and a month after the marriage, I became pregnant. Things were fine with us up to this point, but he immediately started the abusive behavior upon learning of my pregnancy. We were in a plane heading back from his father’s funeral when I told him I was really sick and thought I was pregnant. He decided to celebrate by drinking, whispering in the ear of the woman next to him , giggling, laughing, and grabbing her leg. I told him he was embarrassing me, and he said he was just being friendly. When we came back home, he started being friendly to any woman he came across. He even asked me for some money for a birthday present (I did the bills before I became bedridden) and then sent it to some woman online whom he had told he wanted to be with her. When confronted, he said that she was stupid to believe any guy online. Then he denied he had sent her the money but never produced a gift.
I was bedridden quickly thereafter, dealing with immense pain and in no shape to confront him during the pregnancy. I thought that maybe he would straighten out after our son was born. The agreement was that he would stay home with our son while I worked. About a month into this arrangement, I felt something was wrong and put a recorder on the phone line. It turned out that he had a woman he was sleeping with that he found out had an STD and he was upset about it. He then made a phone call to a drug dealer to have drugs delivered that morning to the house while I was at work. I was shaking and terrified after I listened to this, knowing my son was alone with him.
I went to the police station, filed a report, and the judge granted an emergency order. They escorted him out of the house. The next several days, he would set off my house alarm. I knew it was him and explained to the officers the situation. They refused to acknowledge that it could be him, and started charging me $100 every time the alarm was set off. They finally told me that if I did not disable the alarm, they would “take their time” responding to any other calls from my home.
I disabled the alarm, and a night or two later he slipped into the house in the middle of the night, disabled the phones, and then pulled me out of the bed where I was sleeping by my hair. He proceeded to slap, choke, bend my glasses, and pull out clumps of my hair. At one point I managed to get the front door open and scream, but I think my neighbors were afraid of him and nobody called the police. I even had police officers who lived right down the street.
After several restraining orders that he violated and was never in jail for long for, I left California because he kept stalking me at the firms I worked at. He would just show up because he knew I wouldn’t want a scene at work. I moved to Arkansas, hoping to be able to use the money from the house I sold to buy a small house and care for my son who has Aspberger’s. I tried to file for divorce a few times, but he always dodged service, and then showed up on the weekends when he knew they would not serve him. I was punched and slapped any time I tried to make him leave the home. The worst time was when he slapped me so hard that my head hit the door frame I was standing in. I had a lump that fit my cupped hand for at least three months afterward. I also had a huge slap bruise on my face. I begged him to let me go to the hospital. He refused. He picked up a pickle jar and slammed it into his own face in case I tried to call the police and have him arrested. He threatened that he would see to it we were both arrested. I was absolutely terrified of him. The police either did not want to help or could not help, or blamed me. I had suicidal thoughts once, was totally discouraged and felt trapped and helpless all the time, and angry at God who did not seem to hear my pleas to intercede. I became pregnant one night when he forced himself on me. I love my daughter, but bawled when I found out he had something else to hold over me.
I finally had to leave the beautiful home I bought and escape to live in a trailer in Georgia with a man who was kind enough to want to help me. I am happier now than I ever was. He tried to file for divorce without telling me, hoping I would not find out and he would be awarded my home. I just happened to really feel like I needed to file and my attorney told me he had already filed. He then hoped that the judge would force me to return to Arkansas under the guise of allowing him to see his children, but thankfully that did not happen. He called the children only to try to talk to me, but I refused. He has stopped calling, does not exercise his visitation, and is not paying his court ordered child support. My house is sitting in a nice neighborhood looking like an eyesore because I cannot go back and he is not maintaining the home like he was court ordered to do. I also found out that the attorney handling my case is completely incompetent. Over a month after my hearing and the protective order that was supposed to be filed has not been filed. I have no protective order to show any police agency.
So I am going to go back and do what I know how to do – be a family law attorney. I am going to be confident and not taking anything from anyone. I will leave no stone unturned. He will not win this time.
I just wanted to share my story to let you out there know that this is NOT YOUR FAULT. Don’t listen to people who try to blame you. It didn’t happen to you because you are stupid or too spineless to stand up for yourself. The problem is HIM, there is something seriously wrong with these men, not you. It isn’t love. I know he does not love me, but is addicted to me in a very twisted way. You can’t give up, though believe me I know you want to. I have a discussion group on myspace called, “Never Again – Domestic Violence.” I am here for anyone who needs encouragement. It gives me the strength to deal with this man who has done everything in his power to break me. When this is over, I will be helping victims any way I can. I plan to move to California when it becomes feasible, and opening a practice that reaches out especially to victims of domestic violence. I cannot EVER turn my back on my suffering sister after what I have been through. Sharing what is happening and reaching out until someone listens is all you can do sometimes. Don’t ever give up, don’t let him win. Those women who lie and say they are abused to gain advantage in court, SHAME ON YOU!!! You are making it harder for those of us who are truly suffering to get help. Have a conscience.

]]> By: CAROL http://www.thehotline.org/2009/05/share-your-voice/comment-page-1/#comment-86 CAROL Mon, 11 May 2009 21:27:17 +0000 http://www.ndvh.org/?p=784#comment-86 Hi. I checked into my gift store payment processor situation. It was reactivated today; and should be working fine within 24-72 hours. I was mostly a stay at home mom since 1987. It's beyond me that anyone would think iI have a couple million bucks inspite of what they see/reality. I had to leave in Jan. of 2008 in order to save mine and my childrens' lives. The same thing should not be continuing to happen. Yet, it is. I need it investigated. Hi. I checked into my gift store payment processor situation. It was reactivated today; and should be working fine within 24-72 hours.

I was mostly a stay at home mom since 1987. It’s beyond me that anyone would think iI have a couple million bucks inspite of what they see/reality. I had to leave in Jan. of 2008 in order to save mine and my childrens’ lives.

The same thing should not be continuing to happen. Yet, it is. I need it investigated.

]]> By: Confused http://www.thehotline.org/2009/05/share-your-voice/comment-page-1/#comment-85 Confused Mon, 11 May 2009 19:27:13 +0000 http://www.ndvh.org/?p=784#comment-85 Hi, I am trying my best to get educated on this matter. I am a 24 year old female. My boyfriend is 28, we have been together on and off for almost 5 years. Through our relationship we have had our ups and downs, for the most part he has been very supportive, helped me pay for school encouraged me to succeed in my career etc. He is never emotionally or physically abusive until we have an escalated argument. But these arguments are progressively getting worse. It starts off over something small, but I find the need to talk it over and he prefers to either walk away or ignore me/the situation. He warns me to just drop the issue. I continue to try and get a response out of him until he snaps and begins calling me names. Items have been broken due to his anger, and the argument turns into a battle of threats and words. He calms down and asks to be left alone. I leave him alone. After some time I approach him to speak calmly only to find out that he is still angry and ready to call me names and belittle me or blame everything on me. At this point I try to defend myself and inform him the wrongs he is doing towards our relationship. He retaliates into physically forcing me to leave the house. I have been pushed down, grabbed, pulled, kicked when trying to approach him. After this happens and time passes, he explains I created the situation and that it is my fault for not leaving him alone. When he pushes me it usually involves him slamming a door behind me to stop me from confronting him. I think I may be triggering his temper to escalate but I know I am not responsible for his own actions. He usually refuses to take responsibility for any physical harm he causes (bruises, scratches etc.) This is taking an emotional toll on me. When our relationship is good it's truly the best thing ever, but when it is bad, it’s really bad. I don't want to lose him, but I am beginning to fear there is no hope in making him understand he has anger issues. I also fear I have issues of my own. We just had another one of these arguments and I packed my belongings and left after reading What is Domestic Violence on this website…I answered yes to: ”Punishes you by withholding affection.” “Calls you names, insults you or continually criticizes you.” “Damaged property when angry (thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.)” ”Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or choked you.” ” Forced you to leave your home.” I am staying with a friend; I don’t know what to do about the rest of my belongings, mail, future…or if there is hope. I don’t even know if is he realizes how he has hurt me. He has not tried to contact me at all. And I have refrained from contacting him. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Hi,

I am trying my best to get educated on this matter. I am a 24 year old female. My boyfriend is 28, we have been together on and off for almost 5 years.

Through our relationship we have had our ups and downs, for the most part he has been very supportive, helped me pay for school encouraged me to succeed in my career etc.

He is never emotionally or physically abusive until we have an escalated argument. But these arguments are progressively getting worse. It starts off over something small, but I find the need to talk it over and he prefers to either walk away or ignore me/the situation. He warns me to just drop the issue. I continue to try and get a response out of him until he snaps and begins calling me names. Items have been broken due to his anger, and the argument turns into a battle of threats and words.

He calms down and asks to be left alone. I leave him alone. After some time I approach him to speak calmly only to find out that he is still angry and ready to call me names and belittle me or blame everything on me. At this point I try to defend myself and inform him the wrongs he is doing towards our relationship. He retaliates into physically forcing me to leave the house.

I have been pushed down, grabbed, pulled, kicked when trying to approach him. After this happens and time passes, he explains I created the situation and that it is my fault for not leaving him alone.
When he pushes me it usually involves him slamming a door behind me to stop me from confronting him. I think I may be triggering his temper to escalate but I know I am not responsible for his own actions. He usually refuses to take responsibility for any physical harm he causes (bruises, scratches etc.)

This is taking an emotional toll on me. When our relationship is good it’s truly the best thing ever, but when it is bad, it’s really bad.
I don’t want to lose him, but I am beginning to fear there is no hope in making him understand he has anger issues. I also fear I have issues of my own.

We just had another one of these arguments and I packed my belongings and left after reading What is Domestic Violence on this website…I answered yes to: ”Punishes you by withholding affection.” “Calls you names, insults you or continually criticizes you.” “Damaged property when angry (thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.)” ”Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or choked you.” ” Forced you to leave your home.”

I am staying with a friend; I don’t know what to do about the rest of my belongings, mail, future…or if there is hope. I don’t even know if is he realizes how he has hurt me. He has not tried to contact me at all. And I have refrained from contacting him. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

]]> By: lucy http://www.thehotline.org/2009/05/share-your-voice/comment-page-1/#comment-84 lucy Mon, 11 May 2009 16:06:24 +0000 http://www.ndvh.org/?p=784#comment-84 Can the person that abuse can that person just snap and like blackout and do remember all the things that they did or even realize what they did until it is too late. Also he does not drink but did not know if they can get so mad they do not know what they did at all Lucy Can the person that abuse can that person just snap and like blackout and do remember all the things that they did or even realize what they did until it is too late. Also he does not drink but did not know if they can get so mad they do not know what they did at all

Lucy

]]> By: CAROL http://www.thehotline.org/2009/05/share-your-voice/comment-page-1/#comment-83 CAROL Mon, 11 May 2009 06:28:53 +0000 http://www.ndvh.org/?p=784#comment-83 It was only a few weeks ago that I found out my mom's estate began in 2004. Until I was informed that it began upon, or around the time of her death, May 18, 2004, I believed it wasn't created until about June of 2006. Regarding me: I had nearly died in December of 2003. I need an investigator. I cannot disclose too much on this forum. Also, I do not have transportation, and I cannot afford to pay an investigator. Any suggestions are welcome. It was only a few weeks ago that I found out my mom’s estate began in 2004. Until I was informed that it began upon, or around the time of her death, May 18, 2004, I believed it wasn’t created until about June of 2006.

Regarding me: I had nearly died in December of 2003.

I need an investigator. I cannot disclose too much on this forum. Also, I do not have transportation, and I cannot afford to pay an investigator. Any suggestions are welcome.

]]> By: DANIEL PAVON http://www.thehotline.org/2009/05/share-your-voice/comment-page-1/#comment-81 DANIEL PAVON Sun, 10 May 2009 20:10:00 +0000 http://www.ndvh.org/?p=784#comment-81 I NEED HELP FROM ANYONE WHO CAN HELP. MY SON WAS ABDUCTED AT 8 MONTHS OLD, THE PERSON WHO ABDUCTED MY SON IS ALSO MURDER SUSPECT OF MY FATHER (79 YEARS OLD) MY SON IS BEEN EXPLOITED UP TO DATE. PLEASE HELP. SEE THE CASE AT WWW.PENDINGJUSTICE.COM I NEED HELP FROM ANYONE WHO CAN HELP.
MY SON WAS ABDUCTED AT 8 MONTHS OLD, THE PERSON WHO ABDUCTED MY SON IS ALSO MURDER SUSPECT OF MY FATHER (79 YEARS OLD)
MY SON IS BEEN EXPLOITED UP TO DATE. PLEASE HELP.

SEE THE CASE AT http://WWW.PENDINGJUSTICE.COM

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